Words of a fighter

Muhammad Ali, a World Champion boxer, who was also a philanthropist and activist, put up a good fight. His quote, “I hated every minute of training, but I said, ‘Don’t quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion”, really speaks to me in regards to life.

A lot of people, myself included, tend to push things off for many reasons. You don’t feel good enough, you don’t feel like putting forth the effort or energy if you aren’t sure it will be worthwhile, or whatever the reason may be. A lot of work now, could mean less work later, but then procrastination sneaks in.

No one wants to feel like they are suffering in life. Hard work can be frustrating, and exhausting; however, the end result, could be well worth the effort. The more you put in, the more you’ll get back — a lot of people utilize this daily in various forms, but not everyone seems to acknowledge it across the board in every aspect of their life.

This quote inspires me to want to be a better version of myself, and work hard to ensure that later will be more fulfilling. Some days may be harder to push through than others, but every day I push through will bring me closer to achieving my goals. The more I put in now, the easier it will be later, and I can make myself a stronger version of me.

How does this quote make you feel? Does it inspire you? Please leave a comment below!

My Woes With Social Media

As a blogger, I should love social media, right? Great way to self promote my blog and my work, and I can connect with the world. Works for a lot of people, right?

Not for this girl…

Social media is awesome, and it has been for me in the past. I can find topics about nearly anything on various posts and pages. I used to use MySpace regularly until Facebook took off. It seemed great to me. I added friends from work, friends that I knew from school, family that I didn’t see often, and I had a quick way to communicate with them, even before texting was as easy as it is now.

I promoted things that I love, like music, art, etc. I would post family vacations, show friends what my hobbies were, and my growing list of interests. I even posted music videos from YouTube to try to inspire other people, and give them an idea of music that maybe they hadn’t even heard before but that they might like to hear as well.

Social media is even how I found my now-husband, after about 10 years of losing touch with each other. If nothing else, I appreciate social media for giving me that.

But what’s happened?

Good conversations with people have turned into “let’s hook-up”. Some sites fill up quickly with drama, and people arguing. My husband and I stopped logging into one social media platform about a year ago due to the drama. There were always negative posts flooding the news feed. Ex’s entered stage right to send messages of pining, and, in some, scenarios, threats. How did something so positive in the beginning end up meaning something so negative?

I mean, there’s a lot of great benefits to social media.

  • Access to current news (seems to be posted on social media even faster than the news broadcasts nowadays).
  • Quick ways to contact someone even if you do not have their phone number.
  • Instantly share photos and videos with the world.
  • Promote a business or product
  • Classified Ads

Even for myself, I’ve been doing a lot of reading to confirm how beneficial social media is for promoting a blog, to help people to find you. It makes sense, a lot of sense. I made a Pinterest account to try to promote my blog.

I mean, the sad fact is that if I don’t promote on social sites, no ones ever even going to know I’m here, and that would in turn mean that everything I am writing I should just turn into a private journal. What’s the point, really? I’d like to help and inspire people in ways that I have the ability to, not hide in a corner.

But the negative side of social media that plagues me since starting up on Pinterest is that I’ve gotten multiple messages from multiple men who apparently think I joined Pinterest as a dating site. Well, sorry to break it to you, but I’m happily married, and I’m not here for a “hook-up”. I just don’t get it.

Granted, when you put yourself out into the world, you never really know what you’re going to get, but I guess it almost uninspires me a bit. I’m here to help people and talk about inspiration, or something comparable. If I wanted a date, I’d join a dating site. Makes sense, right? No, I’m not giving you my phone number.

I get that some people do meet their future mate that way, but that’s not what I am looking for. I haven’t made dating pins on Pinterest, or pins with various sorts of innuendo for someone to even think that I care about “hooking up”.

Am I the only one who feels this way?

I guess in the end, it isn’t social medias fault, but how people choose to use it.

Please comment below with your feelings and opinions!


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6 Major Types of Anxiety

According to Anxiety.org, Tanja Jovanovic, Ph.D. states, “Anxiety is the mind and body’s reaction to stressful, dangerous, or unfamiliar situations. It’s the sense of uneasiness, distress, or dread you feel before a significant event.” This can allow you to be more reactive in a bad situation, however, sometimes anxiety pops up in situations that you wish it wouldn’t. Let’s take a look at the types of anxiety than many people encounter in life.

There are many subcategories of anxiety disorders, but they are usually categorized in six major categories.

  • Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD)
  • Panic Disorder
  • Social Anxiety
  • Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
  • Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
  • Certain Specific Phobias

Anxiety can be something you have lived with since before you can remember, or something that came about over the course of your life from various situations. Some people have learned ways to cope with their own regularly occurring anxieties, whether with internal help or external help. Many people take medications to lessen the effects of anxiety, other people just deal with it the best they can, and yet other people can use skills they have adopted over time to minimize the impact that “anxiety flare-ups” can cause.

Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD)

Of the major categories of anxiety, generalized anxiety disorder (GAD), seems to be of the most common in adults. This type of anxiety encompasses every day worries about triggers such as finances and stressful situations, as well as worries about events or situations that have no known reasoning behind them. This types of anxiety can affect how you react to many regular, day-to-day situations.

Panic Disorder

Panic disorder, as the name suggests, is a type of anxiety disorder that can have accompanying “panic attacks”. Panic attacks can come unexpectedly and consist of physical reactions, like sweaty hands, hard time breathing, or even a feeling of something being very, very wrong. NIMH (National Institute of Mental Health) has a very informative brochure on panic attacks, as well as resources to understand and address it.

Social Anxiety

Social anxiety, also called social phobia, is basically a fear of social situations. With social anxiety, a person who has it tends to be fearful of what other people think of them, and of situations that can arise from such interactions. According to Thomas A. Richards, Ph.D., “Social Anxiety Disorder (social phobia) is the third largest mental health care problem in the world today.” Someone who has social anxiety may tend to not participate in many social events.

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a type of anxiety disorder that centers around a terrifying experience or some sort of highly negative impact on an individual, whether through injury or experience. Living through or watching a traumatic scene can cause post-traumatic stress disorder. Examples of things that can cause PTSD are,

  • War
  • Death
  • Emergency situation
  • Abuse
  • Reoccurring fearful situation
  • High levels of stress

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), is characterized by an individual who has reoccurring and unwanted thoughts and behaviors that can be shown in regular activities. Very often, the person who suffers from OCD needs to carry out the actions of the compulsion to try to alleviate the obsession that they mentally feel towards said activity or behavior. Someone who has obsessive compulsive disorder tends to have anxiety due to the mental repetition.

Certain Specific Phobias

A specific phobia is one that causes anxiety due to a particular person, item, place, etc. This one “thing” causes undue stress on the affected person. This can be so intolerable that the person doesn’t want to mention it, see it, or have anything to do with it, and any instance of this happening can cause a heightened sense of fear and anxiety. Sometimes, the fear is unwarranted, since it can be towards something that would normally not cause harm or danger. Some specific phobias, however, can come from a situation of harm or something that has caused turmoil with the person in the past from some sort of experience with it.

Conclusion

Anxiety is a large part of mental health. It can cause physical, emotional, and mental symptoms, and a lot of people deal with anxiety related disorders on a regular basis. I, myself, suffer from social anxiety and severe anxiety, and I know that coping can be hard, some days more than others. I am including a series of references for anyone who needs assistance understanding these forms of anxiety, and many of the sites I am listing also include ideas for coping, or what to do if it seems overwhelming and you or someone you love needs help.

Resources:

Many of the resources listed above dabble in multiple types of anxiety in regards to information and resources. I would suggest searching each site for even more information regarding each type.


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YouTube Channel

Hello everyone! Please take time to check out my new YouTube channel! I will be adding content as often as possible. This channel is dedicated to adding more visual inspiration as well as a source to appreciate nature to her fullest!

Thank-you in advance for checking it out and have a great day!

~Sarah~

Books

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Books

Another good source of inspiration for me is books. When I am down or need a pick-me-up from life, I find that a good book can really uplift my spirit. Whether it is a book regarding “self-help”, such as fighting anxiety and depression, or even a fiction book that mentally takes me somewhere that isn’t reality. Usually a temporary break from reality really helps me to get myself back on track, because it is solid time that I can shut off the “stress-o-meter”, and drown out the tons of “weight” that is bogging down my mind.

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As a quick background on me, I grew up as an only child. My parents, unlike myself, were very highly religious. I started out in public school until the end of 5th grade, at which point we moved away and I was home-schooled and in and out of different christian schools for the rest of my schooling. Needless to say, I didn’t have many friends (this was before the era of cellphones and social media). Honestly, other than 1 or 2 kids my mom wanted me to be friends with because she was friends with their parents, I really didn’t have anyone, and “forced friendships” didn’t really work for me. I’m sure I will post more about this topic at another time, however, if you wish to know more, feel free to comment on this post! Going back on topic, I remember when I was younger, about 12-16 years old, I LOVED “Chicken Soup For The Teenagers Soul“. I remember reading stories in there that made me feel like I couldn’t possibly be the only one who felt like I did. That was enough to keep me inspired for a bit. I suppose in some ways, reading about other children’s lives almost made me feel like for a few minutes I was a part of the experience, as strange as I am sure that sounds. I’ll include a link for Amazon if you are interested in the “Chicken Soup For The Soul” series. I find that there are books to reach out to a wide array of people , no matter where you are on your path. I’ll also include a link on the “Products That Inspire Me” page.

Music For The Spirit

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Music

YouTube has been such a savior to me on many occasions. Music can be so powerful, and when I choose the right videos to listen to, it can be very inspiring and motivating. I, personally, find such music as industrial, ambient, drum and bass, and metal music to inspire me, especially folk music. It opens up an energy that I can feel myself radiate, it’s just up to me to make sure what I project is positive energy. I feel though, that any type of music can be inspiring if it sings to your spirit and makes you feel uplifted and empowered.

Sometimes, it isn’t even the music that can inspire, but the video that goes along with it, especially if you are using YouTube. Images that mesh with music can be even more powerful. A lot of the relaxing videos that I watch when I just want to “zen out” show pictures of nature, or something I connect to as very spiritual.

Music has been around for a long time. Although no one knows when exactly the first bit of music was discovered, carved flutes have been found that seemingly date back to prehistoric times. In my opinion, it shows just how powerful music can be if it was one of the earliest things discovered that is still thriving now in 2020.

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Playing an instrument can be very inspiring at well. When I was about 10 years old, I started playing the flute in school. It’s one thing to hear the music made from others, but it is such a wonderful feeling to create it yourself; something that no one else has made or heard, a melody that came from you. I’ve noticed in the past that how I feel when I try to play music gives direction to how the music sounds. When I am happy and in a good mood, the music is free flowing and very passive sounding. However, when I’m mad or frustrated, the music sounds forced and gruff. I see this relating to how I see energy; what you give out, is what you get in return. Let’s make it a good tune.

5 Things that inspire me

It can be very hard to find inspiration. Usually when I’m running low on inspiration, and feel that I need a recharge, I have the choice to either find it in myself, or find it in outside sources.

Honestly, I find that inspiration can be found just about anywhere, you just have to be open and receptive to receiving it so that you can see it in its entirety.

“If you walk, climb, run, or crawl through life with a closed mind, you will likely never find what you are looking for, no matter how fast or how slow you go. “

Sarah Sell

Instead of posting a super long blog post that will take anyone forever and a day to read, I will post in sections. I have a lot to say for each topic, so if you do not see all five topics today, check back daily this week while I update them according. Apparently, I am extra inspired this week. I guess I’m going to roll with it…

The top five (since there are many more than five) things that inspire me are…

Music
Nature
Books
Movies
Family/Friends
  • Music
  • Books
  • Family/Friends/Neither
  • Nature
  • Movies

I will begin posting my reasoning for each, with examples, soon. Please subscribe to my blog or like this post if you want to read upcoming posts. What 5 (or more) things inspire you, Reader? Please list them in the comment section.

Positive Energy

Nowadays, unlike many decades before, there are so many ways to get in touch with other people. We no longer have to wait for snail mail, or place a phone call, hoping the other person can hear us. We now have internet. Yay, internet!

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I find though, that it can be hard to find kind people. I have recently worked in multiple call centers, and I cannot begin to describe all of the customers I have had to deal with. I get a lot of nice people, who have manners (they do exist!), and a lot of people who are miserable, and want to take everything out on you. Many times I thought I was going to have a nervous breakdown. I like to think I have tough skin when I need it, but sometimes people just slamming you mentally every which way to Sunday can be overwhelming, especially when it is over and over and over again! When all you really wanted to do in the first place was just help them. Isn’t that in itself a reason to try to be nice to the person on the other end of the phone?

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It would be nice to feel good that I helped someone, someone actually willing to receive my assistance without scolding me and getting upset. I would count that as a win-win in my book!

I find for myself, that sometimes, I need a little push to regain some positivity. Some days, I feel like my positive well ran dry and I’m not sure how to quick refill it. If you’ve ever felt like this, then I hope my website helps you refill your well, even if just a little at a time.

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I think in life today, everyone is running around trying to find ways to make their lives easier, or happier, or whatever, but many people in doing so no longer take the time to help others, or be compassionate, or kind, everyone is just hurry hurry hurry! I don’t have time! It’s like trying to run a daily marathon. You just keep going until you’re either done or you fall down.

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Myself In A Nutshell…


I felt that this would be a good time for a more complete introduction. My name is Sarah. I’m a 30-something year old woman who is still trying to find her place in the world it seems.

Literally in a nutshell…

Life has its ups, and life certainly has its downs. My life was not really an easy one; however, I must say, it has been a personally empowering one. In later posts, I will likely describe in a bit more detail some of the experiences that I feel “shaped” me to be who I am today. My hope will be that it helps you, inspires you, or empowers you in some way in regards to your own life.

Looking back at why I feel helping and inspiring people is so important to me really is more than just who I am, but what I have gone through, and what I have learned so far on my journey. I’ve been homeless a few times. I’ve made acquintances with beings who vowed to love me but instead left me bruised and bewildered and in much worse shape than when I had first met them. But ultimately, the important part is that I have learned from it, and in some ways, it dictates a bit of how I treat others, because I remember when life had me so down, that I didnt think there was any hope left. In a few scenarios, the only thing that guided me “back to safety” was an outstretched hand of someone who genuinely cared to pull me back on my path, or a kind, unexpected deed of a stranger to remind me that not all humans are bad.

This is what I want to be for you. Or for anyone who needs me. I want to set an example of how I feel the world should be. We’re all a part of it. We all suffer, or have overjoying times. We all know how it feels to love, to lose love, or to lose a loved one, or to have some event in life that just made us wonder “why?”.

I am not a religious person, however I am very spiritual. I am very drawn to nature, and I am sure my blog will be a reflection of that. I welcome any and all comments, in hopes that we can inspire each other. I feel that I am a very open-minded spirit, and I will treat anyone with respect who shows me some as well. My wish for you today is that you have an amazing day, and that you feel loved. Thanks for taking the time to read my blog!

~Sarah~

“Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

“I can’t change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination.”

Jimmy Dean

“Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right.”

Henry Ford

I Know How It Feels

I know how it feels to feel let down. I know how it feels to feel like you just lost your last friend. When the world throws everything at you full force, I know how it feels to feel completely overwhelmed and just plain exhausted in every way.

How do I pick up the pieces?

“When you feel like you’ve let yourself down and lost the fight, you have to remember, you showed up in the first place, which is more than many will do.” – Sarah Sell

Life isn’t going to be perfect, that is just irrational. I am a firm believer, through experience, that sometimes, when life gets so cluttered that you do not know where to start, sometimes you have to start over. Go back into that battle and fight even harder this time, knowing what you now know. The positive side to feeling defeated is learning your own weaknesses. Until you find out what is bringing you down, you cannot make strides to ensure it never happens again or find ways to make it a positive instead of a negative. Remember, you cannot control the actions of others, but you can control your own, and you can control how you allow that situation to make you feel.

“When you fall, make sure you get yourself back up”. – Sarah Sell

It is a good feeling when you have people around you to help lift you up, but it is a far more empowering experience to know that no matter what happens, you can get yourself back up regardless of who is or is not with you. When you feel alone in the world, this can be your greatest asset, to know that no matter who is around, you have your back. I learned this when I was homeless, and I think that is a large part of how I got through my experience mostly intact still. It is not easy, you have to really put trust in yourself and your own inner strength to help you, but it is definitely possible! This can also be helpful for when you have loving people in your circle or around you, and you still feel alone. I know that feeling too..

I have an amazing stepson. I became mom when he was ten years old, he is now thirteen. My husband is very supportive and loving, but sometimes, I still get this feeling of being the “black sheep” in the bunch. Recently, my son asked his father about where he came from, and information about his great grandparents and family. It was a conversation that I couldn’t really be a part of, fully, since I have no idea what happened in my husbands family other than little things he has told me here or there. It is a common conversation starter, “Oh, I must have gotten this from you, Dad”.

I’m not going to lie, it can be hard to hear father and son compare their similarities, and know that I have no bearing on anything genetics related. My son did not get anything from me other than what I have provided since he was ten years old. Period.

What I guess it comes down to, is that if you put faith in yourself, you’re never alone, not really. People can be people, just make sure you are yourself. The world only has one of you. The people and situations that bring you down, stop letting them! Empower yourself to enjoy your own company in addition to others. I guarantee you are stronger than you give yourself credit for. You just need to see it in yourself, then integrate it into your life. People are going to be sh*tty sometimes. They will not always understand you, and will try to tell you how to feel. You cannot control that, you can only control yourself and your actions, and how you receive what the world sends to you. Make it positive!

~Sarah Sell~

Compassionate, Loving, Inspiring, Motivating, Being Kind, Empowering

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