As a blogger, I should love social media, right? Great way to self promote my blog and my work, and I can connect with the world. Works for a lot of people, right?

Not for this girl…

Social media is awesome, and it has been for me in the past. I can find topics about nearly anything on various posts and pages. I used to use MySpace regularly until Facebook took off. It seemed great to me. I added friends from work, friends that I knew from school, family that I didn’t see often, and I had a quick way to communicate with them, even before texting was as easy as it is now.

I promoted things that I love, like music, art, etc. I would post family vacations, show friends what my hobbies were, and my growing list of interests. I even posted music videos from YouTube to try to inspire other people, and give them an idea of music that maybe they hadn’t even heard before but that they might like to hear as well.

Social media is even how I found my now-husband, after about 10 years of losing touch with each other. If nothing else, I appreciate social media for giving me that.

But what’s happened?

Good conversations with people have turned into “let’s hook-up”. Some sites fill up quickly with drama, and people arguing. My husband and I stopped logging into one social media platform about a year ago due to the drama. There were always negative posts flooding the news feed. Ex’s entered stage right to send messages of pining, and, in some, scenarios, threats. How did something so positive in the beginning end up meaning something so negative?

I mean, there’s a lot of great benefits to social media.

• Access to current news (seems to be posted on social media even faster than the news broadcasts nowadays).
• Quick ways to contact someone even if you do not have their phone number.
• Instantly share photos and videos with the world.
• Promote a business or product
• Classified Ads

Even for myself, I’ve been doing a lot of reading to confirm how beneficial social media is for promoting a blog, to help people to find you. It makes sense, a lot of sense. I made a Pinterest account to try to promote my blog.

I mean, the sad fact is that if I don’t promote on social sites, no ones ever even going to know I’m here, and that would in turn mean that everything I am writing I should just turn into a private journal. What’s the point, really? I’d like to help and inspire people in ways that I have the ability to, not hide in a corner.

But the negative side of social media that plagues me since starting up on Pinterest is that I’ve gotten multiple messages from multiple men who apparently think I joined Pinterest as a dating site. Well, sorry to break it to you, but I’m happily married, and I’m not here for a “hook-up”. I just don’t get it.

Granted, when you put yourself out into the world, you never really know what you’re going to get, but I guess it almost uninspires me a bit. I’m here to help people and talk about inspiration, or something comparable. If I wanted a date, I’d join a dating site. Makes sense, right? No, I’m not giving you my phone number.

I get that some people do meet their future mate that way, but that’s not what I am looking for. I haven’t made dating pins on Pinterest, or pins with various sorts of innuendo for someone to even think that I care about “hooking up”.

Am I the only one who feels this way?

I guess in the end, it isn’t social medias fault, but how people choose to use it.

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